I really think we go through life with a backwards view on marriage. As many of us grow up, we are surround with our parents that have a more mature love. Many parents have been married for years before we came along, or have had their experience with a child before us. We observe our parents and get that notion: I want to have a marriage like my parents. Well of course you do! They have figured out their weaknesses that they need to work around, they have found their routine for life schedules, and they have more experience in life and in how to make things work.
But the truth of the matter is: Marriage is work. And probably our parents have learned to hide more than they mean from us. But aside from that... let's face it. They have a mature marriage. Newly weds: we have a brand spanking new marriage. We don't know how to sleep two people in a bed or what side to sleep on (I am two months in and still struggling with that one). We don't know how to time meals out so that everyone can eat at the same time. We don't know how to juggle jobs with what needs to be done around the house. We don't know what is worth the money now, what is worth saving up for, and what we can do without. We don't know a lot. Yet.
With time, we can get there. Just for now, we try and fail and try and find that happy medium every one strives for. I just think it is really important to not get discouraged with the DREAM of perfection, of having the perfect marriage (maybe like your parents) but instead to really take in the moment as it is now and see your marriage as an adventure. As a challenge you both need to take on together. Compromise and all.
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