previous post reconsidered and enhanced.

Thought: A marriage is made of two people. That leads to two variables that do not always lead to the same solution. What I am getting at is, my marriage is just that, MY marriage. I am not my parents' marriage, I am not my in-laws' marriage, I am not my friends' marriage, I am not apart of a tv show or movie, I am nothing but purely me. And Same for my husband! And together, WE are what make our marriage our own. It is unfair to give any preconceptions based on others because they have their ideas based on their experiences. We need to make our own decisions to find what makes us work. And I am learning to let go of what other people think and to form my own opinions and to really let go of frustrations. They only bring me down. And there really is nothing worth the frustration now. So many blessings have been given! I have a wonderful loving husband who really loves me for me and believes in all that I am. He works hard and has a job, which is wonderful. And we have a home together, we have food, we have luxury items for goodness sake! we are not doing bad. And I shouldn't feel bad. We are doing well. very well. And I have a wonderful husband that loves me, did I already say that? because it is the most amazing wonderful thing I always feel blessed about. :)

Seeing Marriage as it is NOW

I really think we go through life with a backwards view on marriage. As many of us grow up, we are surround with our parents that have a more mature love. Many parents have been married for years before we came along, or have had their experience with a child before us. We observe our parents and get that notion: I want to have a marriage like my parents. Well of course you do! They have figured out their weaknesses that they need to work around, they have found their routine for life schedules, and they have more experience in life and in how to make things work.

But the truth of the matter is: Marriage is work. And probably our parents have learned to hide more than they mean from us. But aside from that... let's face it. They have a mature marriage. Newly weds: we have a brand spanking new marriage. We don't know how to sleep two people in a bed or what side to sleep on (I am two months in and still struggling with that one). We don't know how to time meals out so that everyone can eat at the same time. We don't know how to juggle jobs with what needs to be done around the house. We don't know what is worth the money now, what is worth saving up for, and what we can do without. We don't know a lot. Yet.

With time, we can get there. Just for now, we try and fail and try and find that happy medium every one strives for. I just think it is really important to not get discouraged with the DREAM of perfection, of having the perfect marriage (maybe like your parents) but instead to really take in the moment as it is now and see your marriage as an adventure. As a challenge you both need to take on together. Compromise and all.

Two months!

Almost two months of amazing adventures have gone by. Our two month anniversary is tomorrow! With it approaching, the wedding day keep flashing in my head as a distant pleasant dream. I really couldn't have hoped for a more perfect day full of happiness and love! So many family and friends were involved and made it possible, which reminds me of the huge blessing they are in my life.
But remembering all those wonderful people and the amazing time we got to share together for intense wedding cram sessions, just leave me feeling home-sick. I am now living in a new state, far away from family and friends and I miss them. This past weekend, many of my family met at my Grandparents house in Michigan to celebrate the Fourth of July holiday weekend, as we had done many years previous. I really wanted to be there. I felt bad for Tommy because all I did all weekend was talk about holidays past and feel down a bit that I wasn't there this year. It's not his fault. I am sure there will be other opportunities for us to be with family in those moments.
We did have fun this weekend though. Tommy got the Monday off from work so it was more time to spend together! I love the moments we share together because it is just the two of us, it is as if every moment in those times are moments to grow together and love each other fully.